Archive for December, 2011
We also want to get real with our music. The popular sound these days is unplugged sound, groups like Green Day, Hootie and the Blow Fish have this acoustical guitar driven music. They don’t like the synthesizers or the electronic sounds so much anymore. They want to get real.
Despite all of our efforts to get real, are we really real in the things that matter? Are we? What if Jesus Christ went out with you to brunch right after this service, say to Chili’s. Let’s say He sat down with you and began a discussion. What would He say? I think that He would say something like this. “You know, it is great you are wearing a 100% wool sweater. It is great you are listening to acoustical guitar music. It is great you are eating vegetables on the lite menu, but are you real in the things that matter?” You see Jesus said “get real” long before some logo athletic marketing executive coined the phrase. I think that He might say to you and me, “Get real in the most important areas. Get real with yourself.” Are you real with yourself?
That is a question I asked myself this week. For the last five years I have owned a mobile phone. Oftentimes, when I am talking on the phone, I will pick up some crosstalk, conversations that people are having on other mobil or cordless phones. Most of the talk is just a bunch of junk, nonsense. But, now and then, you can pick up on crosstalk that is really something else. I mean you hear some real info, people closing major deals. I heard two girls one day talking about a guy who was so good looking. Now and then, just to play a joke on the people, I will join in on the conversation. “Someone is listening to us. Who is that voice? Where did it come from?”
The Sexperiment tells us that the Song of Songs – used to defend many sexual acts in chapter ten – is ‘abused’ according to Mr Challies, as well as many internet forum commentators. Most importantly, he says the book in ‘unhinged from the gospel.’ Sexperiment
Think about a press conference. I love to watch Bill Clinton in press conferences. First you hear “Hail to the Chief”. “Thank you. Any questions?” “Mr. President, Mr. President, Mr. President.” “Yes”. “Mr. President, about the Whitewater issue?” “Next question, please”, and he goes on to someone else. What the press is doing is something that parents need to be doing. They are vying for time. They want to be the first one to speak to the President of the United States. Think about how many different people and media are vying for our child’s brain…television shows, music, peers, public sex education. All these voices. Our children are inundated with sexual messages that intellectually, emotionally and spiritually they are not ready to receive. So parents, we need to be the first ones to initiate these conversations and talk to our children about this beautiful, beautiful subject.
In the 1950s when Lucille Ball was pregnant on the “I Love Lucy Show”, they couldn’t even utter the word pregnant. In the ’60s, Rob and Laura of Dick Van Dyke fame, they had to sleep in twin beds. The outfit of Barbara Eden on “I Dream Of Jeannie” had to cover her navel. In sex education courses in school, abstinence was the only way. I remember watching a film in junior high school entitled, “From Boy to Man”. “This is Tim. He is going through puberty… ” and it went on and on and on. Today though, our television applauds homosexuality, bisexuality, sado-masochism, and the public schools are handing out condoms to children saying how important it is to have safe sex. And those who believe in abstinence think, “Well, I don’t want to be passive about sex so I guess I’ll be active”, and you have a clash of differing worldviews as Chuck Colson mentions in his book “The Body”.
Others find the book to be misogynistic and overly focused on male satisfaction. The Sexperiment tells us that ‘This book is an astoundingly unbelievable work of disrespect for women,’ blogs David Moore at theburnerblog.com. Tim Challies, at challies.com writes that there is a lack of internal cohesion to the book – is it a sex guide or a book about marriage, but takes greater offense from the content. Sexperiment
Today I am talking about property lines. I am talking about boundaries. I am talking about space. We are going to discuss the dynamics between grown children and their parents. This volatile and sometimes complex relationship has to do with a concept called property lines, boundaries or space.
I want to give you three decisions that you need to make in order to have a great relationship with your grown children or grown children, with your parents. Three decisions you desperately need to make if you want to have a great relationship. And all three decisions center around this topic called personal property lines. If you want to read more about this topic I encourage you to buy any book written by Dr. Henry Cloud, a wonderful Christian author who writes on this particular subject.
What is the first decision I have to make if I want to really connect with my grown children or my parents? It is the first point on your outline. Please take your outlines out with me and let’s get ready to fill in the first point. First of all, I have got to establish personal property lines. Establish personal property lines. Some of you who are kind of thinking ahead are going, “Ed, how do you do that?” Here is what the Bible says in Genesis 2:24. “For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his wife and they shall become one flesh.” How many times have you heard this verse during wedding ceremonies? Lift your hands. For this cause, the pastors will piously quote, a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall cleave to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. And the pastors and the teachers like to concentrate on the cleave part, the intimacy part of marriage, the becoming one flesh. I have got news for you. When you concentrate on just the last part of the verse, you miss the first command, because you can’t cleave, you can’t become one flesh until you first of all, leave. You have got to leave to cleave. Focus On The Family radio ministry conducted a survey among 2,600 young married adult couples. They wanted to know what was the number one frustration they dealt with. The results staggered them. It blew their staff away. The number one frustration that young married adults deal with is the inability or the unwillingness of their parents to release them, to let go. Are you ready for that? Well meaning parents still want the control. They still want to say, here, son, are your property lines, here, daughters, are your property lines, don’t move from within those property lines or get outside those lines, I will draw the boundaries, I’ll make the parameters, you stay with them and everything will be A-OK.
The sexperiment says indeed, he says that while he is far from innocent, ‘there are perversions that even I have never heard of before reading about them in chapter 10 of Pastor Driscoll’s book. Sexperiment is a book about intimacy wit your spouse. It seems to me that there is something wrong with that.’